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02 February 2010


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Maybe a storage container of some kind specifically for Charlie to keep "unwanted" items might help? If you have somewhere that you keep stuff that doesn't get used frequently it may make sense to Charlie.

Vaccines - research in general - the media's manipulation of research - I feel a big sigh of disappointment coming on. I'm sure the subject of vaccines won't be going down without a fight.

Kristina Chew

We have a basement and you've me thinking, why not get an extra big plastic bin to "dump" things in (currently the two dogs are in a certain place on the dining room floor, just where Charlie seems to want them and perfect for us to trip on them!).


I'm seeing that this process of "dumping" may be repeated many, many times. It may not represent a "letting go" just yet. It may be that Charlie is still thoroughly exploring the process itself, along with its contents. At least Charlie's current method is revocable (not like the toilet!). Yes, it is certainly wise to secretly hold on to the stuff, as he is showing you that he needs to revisit this again and again, as he works all of this out.


Wouldn't it be a good idea to find out what causes autism?


Perhaps some apps on the ipod touch, instead of music, would be nice for him. I have several apps downloaded specifically for certain kids. We don't even call it an ipod around one kid, and he has never heard any music played on mine. If he figures out that I have music, he'll never see my ipod again.


Mars got an I Pod for Chanukah and became disoriented with it. He's AOK with it now if he uses it without headphones.


Liz Ditz

Back when the special interests in my house were stuffed animals, Legos, and PlayMobiles, I had a system of bins. There were a small number of items out in play, and the majority of the collections were stored doubly out of sight in bins that were in a closet.

When I noticed that a particular set hadn't been played with for a few days, I'd bring another set out and put the neglected items in bins.

Occasionally the kids would ask for the complete set of whichever to be brought out and played with, but after a day or so the on-display items were reduced again.

This preserved my sanity.


In the writing you do is it possible to introduce the idea of having him write (or some other way to identify) how he feels about these things that he's disposing of? Maybe starting out with some unrelated and perhaps more small-step things to introduce the concept with a goal of being able to tell you how he's feeling without you having to guess whether he really wants to get rid of them, whether he's just "tired"/bored of them and it's merely for a hiatus not a permanent disposal, or whether he anticipates that despite going into the can, that (at least some) will reappear at some point?

Just thinking about it. Not wanting to kill the golden goose of writing with too much demand, but there seem that there could be several potential scenarios happening.


Wow! Good for him! I know how hard it is for our kids to separate from things. Jack won't even let me throw old lollipops away! So impressed that he's trying this out.

And so proud of you for recognizing this AND for digging around in the trash. Supermom.


I kind of wish folks would learn what autism really is instead of obsessing over what causes it because what it is, what it entails, how autistic people see the world is way more interesting to me than blame.

Deborah Porras

Hi my name is Deborah and I have been reading all your blog sites for the past 3 or 4 years. My son Connell is also autistic very similar to Charlie he is 12 and will turn 13 in sept. he is mostly non verbal but likes video games. I admire all you manage to accomplish in your days. My son also is a joy to be around and has made me a more patient and better person. I agree with you that vaccine are not the worst things you could do to your child. I just want to tell you not everyone thinks that they are bad.

Kristina Chew

I have to go dig out the two dogs later this evening. Thanks for the tip, Regina, will try it.

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