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On Accommodations

You probably have to squint a bit but yes that is me, at work teaching (ancient Greek) in the classroom. Wanting to make the most of the large dry erase board, I am using a tried and true method to access the upper echelon of said board: I am standing on a chair.

Charlie could reach the top of the board, and then some. He needs the equivalent of a chair in other circumstances, as when 'something bothers him' and he wants, needs, to communicate that, but the words don't come.

Tuesday, on a weekly grocery trip with his class, Charlie wanted some items (a Sprite, sprinkles) that were not on a pre-arranged list. His teacher gave him a choice of one of the two, and sprinkles won out, which was fine, but then they passed a display of DVDs. Charlie saw a Barney one and stopped and looked and asked for it and then walked away: DVDs of kid TV shows from his younger days can set off unwieldy emotional responses. Charlie was fretful while waiting for the bus. He got back to school okay and then, with 15 minutes to go, 'the lag' from the grocery store caught up with him. A shelf came down.

He cleaned it all up and took the bus home and was fine for the rest of the day.

Just as I am always going to need a chair to reach the top of the dry erase board, so Charlie has to do as he can to deal with things as they are. The chair is not the best accommodation out there but it works. It's a stopgap measure. Of course we seek to teach Charlie to communicate in words his frustrations and emotional stuff--- well, a lot of us human beings struggle aplenty with these.

(Though if you are looking for a language that expresses these very precisely, ancient Greek does it very well.)



Understanding transitions and growing up is so hard. The leaving behind a part of you is hard for any person to deal with.It has to be so difficult when you can't even express how you feel in so many words.I am glad that Charlie was able to regroup and have a good rest of the day.


Mars loses his composure too when asked to make a choice. He hates the word "choice" and repeats it mockingly if asked to "choose" before he is ready. But the words "decide" and "option" don't offend him so.


@Sarah, i hadn't thought of using those words, will try it, thank you!

I have a feeling that a seemingly innocuous phrase like 'make a choice' might have some troubling associations for Charlie. And hence, not the best phrases to use with him and why not expand his vocabulary.

@Elise, yes, and it's not that we want to not or never go to places where there are Barney, Wiggles, etc. Items. I was pretty pleased how Charlie handled getting upset---he didn't attempt any SIB's---slowly, progress comes.

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